K.

by K.C.
(California)

1. Think of the top 3 people you see most often during the week. Are they positive people or pessimistic people? Do they give you a glimpse of hope and joy or do they squash it all?

They are positive. Yes.

2. Where do you want to see yourself after being depression free? What do you want to be doing with your life?

I want to see myself happy and free from my mind. I want to be the most happiest person I will ever meet.

3. As you think about your depression, what do you think it may be teaching you about yourself?

I think it might tell me who I really am. I want to figure out who is 'K'and what is her purpose alive.

4. What or who makes you angry? My past and mindless people

5. What or who makes you sad? My past and sad things.

6. What or who brings you joy? My friends.

7. What’s one thing, after reading our 6 steps report, that you do not do in your life and you want to start doing this week? (You can skip this question if you haven't yet read our report.) Haven't read it.

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Jun 13, 2015
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by: Roslyn Nolan

Hi! Thanks for your great articles!
Mar 04, 2014
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starstarstarstarstar 		"Everday is lonely, you say" (continued)
by: Anonymous

I work in an old age home. Everyone says they are lonely. The whole building has over 200 people who say they are lonely, but they will not go out into the common living room and watch TV with the other residents because they bicker over what show to watch.....isn't that silly. Its not that they are lonely....its that they want everything their way...like you must watch the TV show they watch. You must have the same opinions as they do about everything or they don't want to be bothered. I'm just saying....to be with people, you must give a little and give up a little. There are social things like taking a bath and using manners. Just be more aware of how you present yourself. Be clean, be polite, listen and don't give too much advice. Listen and give a little praise, don't criticize and put down. Don't expect a younger person to be sexually attracted to you. Accept yourself as you are and the other person as they are. I'm sorry for telling you all of this. I know you didn't want to hear it. It bothers me when people say they are lonely. There are too many lonely people who are really people who are asking others for too much. Like that mother-in-law I told you about earlier. Like the 200 lonely elderly people all living in the same building but too selfish to allow others around them to have a choice of what TV show to watch so they will sit next to you and talk. That talking can lead to getting to know each other. That talking can lead to hugs and love. That talking can lead to two people feeling less lonely in the world. Amen. :)...my name is Leona
Mar 04, 2014
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by: Anonymous

I hear what you are saying. You are lonely. I know a woman who has lost her husband. She is 70 years old. She is very lonely. but.....She has a big beautiful house and she will not allow anyone to rent a room from her because it would mean picking up after someone else, which is a lot of work for anyone let alone a 70 year old lady. She loved her husband passionately. but...the thing she missed the most is all the things he did for her. The woman wouldn't let the man have a minutes peace. He had to always be working, fixing, cleaning something for her. I am so happy I wasn't in his shoes because nothing ever pleased her enough. Now she has no one to boss around. She tries with her children, but we all have our own lives and refuse to allow her to control and manipulate us. So she feels lonely. She comes into her grown children's homes and nit picks and finds all our faults. For example this person plays too many computer games, this person is not getting a job fast enough, this person shops too much, that person drinks too much, this daughter-in-law allows her children to run like wild animals etc. Theses are just some of the judgement calls she makes. Then she goes and gossips about all the terrible things we all do wrong. She can not just come in our home and bring some cookies, hugs and praise. and she wonders why we can't stand to see her pull into our driveways. She spreads gossip and and sometimes jealousy among her five children without a thought of the unhappiness and stress she brings. Then she cries because she is so lonely. Her idea of a perfect mate is my idea of slavery. She is stingy, selfish and totally unaware of what she says and does. She turned the whole family against me, telling them I was being mean to her because I make an excuse that I'm going somewhere every time she shows up on my doorstep. Now they know why I do it, the rest of the family does it too. I live only half a km from her house so I'm her first stop on her search to find someone to "talk" to.

Sorry for going on about my problems with a "lonely" person.

I think what I'm trying to tell you is....are you self aware enough to know what you really want. What I would want is someone to cuddle with and watch movies with. I never feel lonely because I love being alone. It gives me time to do exactly what I want to do. I do so much for others that it is a huge load off my shoulders to have some free alone time.

Are you lonely for a reason. Do you try to be kind and helpful with those you come in contact with or are you looking for people to do things for you? Do you bring peace and fun things to do to those you come in contact with? Are you careful in what you say. No one truly wants to be told how to do things, yet people love it when you just listen to what they have to say. There are so many ways to connect with people.

There are millions of people who say they are lonely but they can't stand to be around people. I'm laughing ...but that is so true.

Seek people out for what you can do for them, not for what they can do for you.

Enjoy the time you have for yourself to be your own boss and to enjoy things you like to do.

Bottom line...take a bath and put on nice clothing when you meet up with people. If you smell clean and dress as they do....it helps you fit in. Look for people your own age to hang out with. People your own age will have experienced many of the same things you have and will understand more what you are really looking for in relationships. (I must continue this in another window...I have typed too much)My name is Leona.

Jan 27, 2014
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by: Anonymous

Everyday I try to be happy,I live alone and I hate it, yes I have friends,family ,but when they go home etc, I'm back in this house lonely again,thinking lonely thoughts,I'm happy just being with people,and when I'm with people I think they look at me because they know I'm a depress person,I just want to be happy and live,I'm 62 and I still feel lonely,what can I do?

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